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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago |
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beebs i think my wife knows very well that i post here, and hell i feel bad with the situation. i just ask some feedback about kids and sleeping. whats wrong with that?
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago |
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Originally posted by bunthorne
His wife does use this site - or used to. Maybe that's chef's intention.
no it is not, i can wake her up and speak about it as well........but!! i want to get some opinions, how do other people handle kids sleeping time.
geez dont go all Chicago on me here.
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by beebs 526 days ago |
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GDV > She may feel that some of her friends know about more of your private life than she feels comfortable with, but then again, I don't know your wife, so I have no idea where she draws the line on family issues on a public forum.
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago (edited 526 days ago) |
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sorry double post
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by beebs 526 days ago |
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Personally, I think if she's having to lie down next to the kid and wait for him to sleep, she may be setting herself up for trouble in the future when the kid is older and he still wants mum to lie next to him until he's asleep. Get him to sleep by himself sooner than later and it'll save you a lot of trouble later on...any Supernannys willing to tackle this challenge?
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago |
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i'd like to be that super nanny! just need some tips. the website i just read was good, ill pick up on that, but some more tips would be great
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by migao 525 days ago |
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I think the logic of having a bedtime routine, rather a long one, is that the kids get security from routines, however much we as adults hate routines. So it's not necessarily good to try to sleep right after eating, instead you could try eating earlier, then play a bit, take a shower/bath, brush teeth, tell a bedtime story. But okay, he will still cry, so that week-long campaign of systematic and consistent training with crying seems to be mandatory in these cases. Not sure though is it too late at that age - could check with a pediatrician as well.
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| posted by sunwaterandsky 525 days ago |
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GDV, there is a really obvious solution here. Why don't you take over the bedtime routine - that way the wife won't be falling asleep (well, maybe you will). This could be a short term solution until you develop a new bedtime routine. In developing a new routine, you should both discuss this in detail and commit to the change - if you don't, you can actually end up with a worse situation.
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| posted by Paps of Jura 525 days ago |
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The poor lad is getting confusing signs from your partner if one night she trys to leave him and let him cry and then the next night she stays by his side... he needs some clear structure... like SWS said you need to get your wife's commitment to try and change this
I don't think it's too late to change this, he is only still a baby, but it may be a bit painful and heartbreaking at the start
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| posted by skinny 525 days ago |
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chef, i am not trying to be funny or mean, and don't take offense, but have you wondered if your wife actually prefers this arrangment?? some women lost interest of sex after they have babies. i am not saying this is exactly your case, but it's a possibility. better have a real talk with your wife.
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| posted by bunthorne 525 days ago |
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Yep, the baby may be becoming a headache in more than one way.
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| posted by Load Toad 525 days ago |
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Yup - the wife going to sleep - might not be an issue with the baby.
He does say 'I love the thought of coming over you'.
'Coming home to...'
'Oh - that's kind of killed the song for me'.
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| posted by xyz 525 days ago |
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asian mums generally tend to do this as compared with western mums. it's a culture thing and also probably it was the way that your wife was also brought up. maybe you should discuss this wifey and find a common ground. have you thought of a baby monitor so she won't be so anxious not to be with the baby at nite?
i agree though that if she does this all the time, the kid will have a hard time sleeping on his own growing up so you have to train yourselves now rather than later when it could be difficult for the kid to see a change in sleeping arrangements.
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| posted by shazza 525 days ago |
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Originally posted by xyz
asian mums generally tend to do this as compared with western mums. it's a culture thing and also probably it was the way that your wife was also brought up.
I'm sorry but this is so not true.
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| posted by xyz 525 days ago |
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i said generally
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