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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago (edited 526 days ago) |
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isnt it rediculous that me wifey has to lay beside my son (separate beds) for an hour in order to bring him to bed?
I get home at 9-9:30 we then have dinner and right after he needs to go to bed........in other words, after an hour she falls asleep and i end up with being kind of single. this cant be right inst it?
how do you bring yours to bed and how long does it take you? do yu still have a life with your wife/husband?
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by bunthorne 526 days ago |
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You mean your son goes to bed after 10? Crikey, I thought he was just a few months old.
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago |
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Bunthy, he is 1 year and 5 months, he goes to bed a bit later then others or else i wont get to see him at all........I work in the catering industry. this is however not the problem, the problem is he cries and cries and cries unless his mom is beside him. which ultimately leads to her falling asleep, and me not having a relationship with her anymore.
as we say goodbye in the morning and goodnight once i just came home.
my 1st one made him self sleep........without any of this
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by bunthorne 526 days ago |
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He's past his natural sleepiness, that's why. It's too late for a child of that age to be going to sleep.
It would be better for you if you could change his routine even it meant you didn't see him.
I barely saw my Dad when I was a kid - I was sent to bed soon after he came through the door at 7.30 or so - until I was 9 or 10.
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| posted by shazza 526 days ago |
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Buy an alarm clock for yer wife to wake her up after the kid's asleep?
If you don't stop this habit now, he will be too spoilt and real hard to change. Get him a soft toy or something to cuddle, let him cry til he gets to sleep by himself, prepare to have some noisy nights before he gives up.
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| posted by shazza 526 days ago (edited 526 days ago) |
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Many children in HK go to bed very late due to the parents schedule which I do not agree though it's nothing unusual.
Before I moved back home to work, I used to miss them most of the nights during the week. They went (still do) to bed before 8.30pm. I made it up by getting up an hour earlier than I had to before going to work to play with them in the morning and the whole weekend instead.
What time do you go to work in the morning chef?
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago |
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i bel.ieve people can live well in different rhytms/times, so dont see a problem our son sleeps later and wakes later (for now) the wife is just sleepy and if she wakes up afterwards, she is cranky.
i told her many many millions of times she have to change this, often i tel her just put him there with a soft toy, and another cuddle. but ultimately she gives in every time again.
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago (edited 526 days ago) |
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Shazz i am at work about 9:30
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by bunthorne 526 days ago |
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Sometimes you have to let the kid cry - it hurts like hell, but once they slip off to sleep they're OK.
Kids hanging around until late at night is one reason why Hong Kong folk have such crap sex lives.
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago (edited 525 days ago) |
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I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago |
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Thanks Migao ill read that
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago |
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OI F_U!! thats clear isnt it?
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by bunthorne 526 days ago |
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quote:
Originally posted by f_u
obviously bad parenting. whose fault is this?
Whoever it was that brought you into the world.
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| posted by shazza 526 days ago |
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I don't think talking about sex life of married couple will make this thread to the playground. It's called family health for goodness' sake!
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago |
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thanks Shazz, was mentioning it in a playfull way. wasnt going to bring sex in the picture, but its part of it too yes
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by shazza 526 days ago |
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Chef, handle it carefully please.
Me being too concentrated on the newborns and their father being such a kid and irresponsible, thinking he's all left out in the family instead of trying to give us a hand was one of the main reasons why we split up.
All the best to yer relationship.
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| posted by God de Vader 526 days ago |
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Shazza, i am no sorry guy, i am in my 2nd marriage, and i am not pittying myself, however having no or almost no communication, is bad. having a stay home wife with a helper in a small flat, cant mean that she has too much on her hand.
i dont ask much, i just want to solve the sleep problem, so that we can have normal communication again, which i think anyone would want, even a mother who tends to and cares for her kids.
I'm not under the alkafluence of inkahol that some thinkle peep I am. It's just the drunker I sit here the longer I get."
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| posted by Imd 526 days ago |
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You are about to post to a PRACTICAL forum on HKExpats. Please keep your replies helpful, informative and on-topic. If you think you have a funny comment to make about the subject being discussed please start a new thread in the Playground.
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| posted by beebs 526 days ago |
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GDV > You may want to think about posting such a question on an open forum where your wife may read it and who I also believe has friends who do use this site. We do want to try and help but you know, you venting here may be more a source of resentment on her part if your wife were to find out that you had been discussing your private life here.
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| posted by bunthorne 526 days ago (edited 526 days ago) |
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His wife does use this site - or used to. Maybe that's chef's intention.
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