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| posted by harley 697 days ago |
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what do you guys do when something totally unexpected happens and you are just numb because you can't believe what happened - like someone has kicked u in the gut ... how do you immediately pick yourself up and go on about as if nothing has happened??
I am an American - born and bred. And I wouldn't want it any other way.
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| posted by beebs 697 days ago |
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Everybody deals with unexpected news differently, so what works for one may or may not work for you. However, like Spanner said, sometimes finding a good friend or a family member to talk things over may be a good place to start, even if you don't come away feeling better, at least it's given you a chance to vent and rant and maybe help your brain begin dealing with whatever it is.
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| posted by harley 697 days ago |
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it is very personal - actually paps kinda knows about it but it just drove me into a state where all i want to do is lie under my covers and i can' t afford to do that ...
I am an American - born and bred. And I wouldn't want it any other way.
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| posted by shazza 697 days ago |
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worse thing happened to me harley. but hell am i positive?
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| posted by catzeyez 697 days ago |
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Unexpected news can be good or bad news. How each deals with such news can be different.
Some men were borned dicks.
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| posted by beebs 697 days ago |
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Cliche but usually time also helps.
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| posted by harley 697 days ago |
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this kinda came out of nowhere ... and usually i get into a depressive state and i don't want to do that ... i see people bounce back so quickly andi guess its just some are stronger than others, right?
I am an American - born and bred. And I wouldn't want it any other way.
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| posted by Beer Boy 697 days ago |
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there could be nothing worse than the news that Eric Cantona didn't want to play anymore....but life went on slowly day by day for me...and now I have got over it nearly
I am aspiring to be just OK!
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| posted by shazza 697 days ago |
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its all in yer own head. if you wanna work yerself up no one can help you.
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| posted by harley 697 days ago |
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you raise two children and run a business and although i don't see you much, you embrace life, i was finally getting back on trak and then now it is like i have to start all over again ... and i will just some of you make it look so easy...
I am an American - born and bred. And I wouldn't want it any other way.
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| posted by rodigan 697 days ago |
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you make a call - either you take control of the situation or you hide under the blankets... me, i prefer the former option...
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| posted by harley 697 days ago |
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i knw right now things are bleak cause i am still on meds and the next 6 months of my life are going to be hell but i now i iwll make it ... itjust reallly hurts right now ....
I am an American - born and bred. And I wouldn't want it any other way.
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| posted by harley 697 days ago |
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rodders, that is the hardest part!
I am an American - born and bred. And I wouldn't want it any other way.
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| posted by beebs 697 days ago (edited 697 days ago) |
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But sometime hiding under the covers is exactly what you need until you get bored and fed up of feeling sorry for yourself and you have to get up and take control of your life again.
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| posted by spannermonkey 697 days ago |
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Miss Davidson,
Best speak to somebody. I'm guilty of bottling things up in the past, but you really cant beat having a chat with someone about your dilema. Even if they can offer no direct help, it always feels better to now that someone else is thinking about you and can offer you support if you need it again. Choose your friend wisely though...
http://www.marisamiller.com
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| posted by Seasider 697 days ago |
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Some people do both.
Hide under the blankets for a few days then tell yourself to get out there and face it if that makes it easier.
And remember, some people make it look easy but that doesn't mean that it is easy.
Not everyone wears their heart on their sleeve.
Hung like Einstein and IQ of a horse.
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| posted by Craic 697 days ago |
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Get over it, move on...... dwell on it just gonna make it worse and worser.... life is short, s**t happens!!
Paul Hunter Died on Monday, rough news, for a 27 years old and talented snooker player!!!
If ya dont want it, dont maul it!!!!
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| posted by rodigan 697 days ago |
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i guess the point is that at some point you'll have to decide to move on with your life. sitting and dwelling on a subject doesn't serve any purpose, so why delay making that call? i'm not saying you have to forget what happened, but beating yourself up or wallowing in guilt serves no positive purpose...
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| posted by Zebedee 697 days ago |
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Blimey Harley, is this something medical, children, partner, family, financial or work related - not that you have to share that with anyone here......only my only tuppence, but I'd say if its not medical or children related, it is possible to deal with the other issues rationally. Serious medical conditions with yourself or your children really are the most difficult to deal with in my view.
Whatever...
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| posted by harley 697 days ago |
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inow you guys are all correct but it doesn't make the pain in my gut go away ...i just feel like someone did something to me on purpose ... you know?
I am an American - born and bred. And I wouldn't want it any other way.
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