Opinions/interpretations, pls!

[Lady G]

Okay, I finally met THE woman yesterday; she came to watch our last performance and then hung around with the cast for a drink. I am trying to keep an open mind, so if you could let me know what YOU think was going on, it may convince me that I am wrong, or that I am right.

SO -- we've dismantled the set, packed everything away, HE has done his bit and then disappeared to join her at the bar while some of the rest of us are still working. Anyway. I struggle up the stairs, laden down with heavy bags etc (with the help of a friend who didn't even have anything to do with the show), and I haven't even set the bags down when all of a sudden, THE woman pushes past my friend to get to me, and taps me on the shoulder.

"Hi," she says. "Before you disappear, I wanted to introduce myself. I'm XXX's girlfriend."

That's right. Shoves past my friend. Introduces herself as HIS girlfriend, not even as "I'm XXX -- oh, XXX's girlfriend."

So. I'm exhausted, I'm p**sy, I can see him standing just behind her, watching this exchange. So I bite down hard on my tongue, and smile back at her, while all the time I'm thinking, "Two things -- one: who said I was disappearing? And, two: oh yeah, that's right, I'm The Other Woman, so back off outta my f*cking face, rebound b*tch".

Anyhow. We eventually all sit down together, making nice, and she proceeds to spend the rest of the time sucking his face off and, from what I could tell, groping him under the table. And yes, she knows about the weird chemistry/flirting thing between me/him. Don't ask me how I know that. I just know it.

I'm thinking: she's wildly insecure and threatened, she's incredibly immature (that kind of behaviour from a territorial 15-yr-old, sure -- but an allegedly grown, mature woman?), and she was making damn sure to put on a great show of "keep your hands off; you're never going to get him" for my benefit.

Of course, I am ready to be persuaded I have misjudged her and the situation. Like I said, I was tired, not in the mood for silly game-playing, and more than prepared to like her -- and that is true. Yes, I'm envious. Yes, I'm sad and confused because I still don't understand his feelings for me. But I am not that shallow and petty that I would deliberately set out to hate her just becos she has him and I don't.

Anyone care to pitch in their 10 cents' worth??

[kamote]

yes... you are tired... you are silly... you are envious... you are confused... you are shalow... you are petty.. you are ok... you love him anyway... hahaha!!!
you still have so many things around you to be happy about...

[God de Vader]

you ned to see a doctor!

[Lady G]

Hmmn. Perhaps I should have been more specific... it was USEFUL, CONSTRUCTIVE opinions/interpretations I was after... but thanks Kamote and GDV... it warms the c**kles of my heart to know you tried...

[kamote]

quote:Originally posted by kamote

you still have so many things around you to be happy about...

not useful and constructive enough...?

[sabi]

It's all in the mind, G.

Lots of Innuendo, like a movie - continue to indulge, rave and rant ....if it makes you feel better.

Waiting for the next episode..... with bated breath....thanks for keeping it up.

[sunwaterandsky]

Gandalf, you are seeing her behaviour through eyes that are frustrated and jealous. Yes, she is probably aware of your flirtation and your feelings for him, but, try to think how she feels in that situation. Stop for a moment and think about his part in this situation. Why is he encouraging her to continue behaviour that makes you jealous? Was he so in the moment that he forgot that you were there, or is he a total prick that enjoys playing two women off each other. She's probably not the best woman out there, but can you blame her for his choices? Save your venom for him.

Sorry Gandalf, but I am frustrated by women always blaming another woman for their male friend's behaviours. I know that you are just frustrated and hurt - I have been there myself in a very similar situation.

p.s. was that your picture in the paper yesterday?

[Lady G]

Thanks SWS -- I have said exactly the same things to myself as well! And things like "well, look, she saw you carrying a bunch of bags, maybe she genuinely thought you were leaving and wanted to say hi becos she really wanted to meet you" and "look, well, they've only been together for about a month so of course they're still in the horny throes of the touchy-feely early stages of a relationship where you can't keep your hands off each other" etc. I can rationalise it all in my head; but purely from a gut-level, raging, woman-scorned standpoint, I want to rip her throat out with my bare teeth. I am not blaming her for anything; I am just saying I don't understand women who behave like that. I mean, she's already won, right? He loves her, I've lost, why rub my face in it? Is that kind of thing really necessary?

Yes, he is a prick. I also think he is genuinely oblivious to the psychological warfare that goes on between women, as indeed most men are.

Sabi> Glad you're enjoying the saga. I live to entertain.

Kamote> Yes, you are right, of course. It's just that sometimes, I do hope for a little more than having the obvious pointed out to me!

[sabi]

G - All good tales need monsters, heroes and of course, the pure and sweet damsel.

Your Prince is coming soon, and it is not he who hangs around with the witch

[kamote]

quote:Originally posted by Gandalf


.....Yes, you are right, of course. It's just that sometimes, I do hope for a little more than having the obvious pointed out to me!

let me bitchslap you a bit till you see something obvious...